- Be contemptuous
- Bring your work home (emotionally)
- Rush through your ‘family life’ in order to spend time with yourself
- Be painfully honest with friends/colleagues about your relationship
- Communicate through your kids
- Refill hedonistic supplies (”look elsewhere for affirmation of identity”)
This list comes from The Last Psychiatrist in response to an article written by Rob Dobrenski on the subject of what makes marriages fall apart. I’m not married, but I have been, and besides, the nature of any given relationship defines it moreso than any label. Hopefully we’ve all come far enough along to acknowledge that by now.
It’d be good to go to the Last Psychiatrist and read the expanded explanations of each of these points, but I have to say that this list is very much the truth. It takes way more integrity and responsibility to keep a relationship healthy than most people have in themselves. It’s always easier to walk away or build yourself up by pointing out faults, but it’s not always the self empowering action that its made out to be. via Lone Gunman
